Slow and steady will win the race
I did well at school. I made a good staat with the Mavo.
Then I went to school in Turkey for 4 years. After that I completed my MBO back in the Netherlands.
I was going to study at the HBO but my performance anxiety kicked in. I took a step back.
I thought: "Slow and steady will win the race".
I didn't follow my father's advice. I regretted that very much in the years ahead.
I thought that I had all the time in the world to do what I wanted to do.
Completed the MBO with good grades. Recieved a good recommendation from a promising apprenticeship.
Which ensured that I quickly found a job.
This was meant to be a holiday job, but at the end of the period I was offered a permanent job.
In my heart I wanted to accept the job, but my life had taken a different turn.
In the summer of 1997 I married and moved to Turkey.
After being married for 21 years, I got a divorce and moved back to the Netherlands.
While I was married I put the life I was used to 'on hold'.
I lived a completely different life. Once again forgetting my parents' advice.
'Stand tall and do what you want to do', they told me. Why do I always forget that....
My marriage gave me my 3 beautiful children. I'm incredibly proud of them.
The twins are now 21 years old. They are both following an academic course at a university in Turkey.
My 'afterthought' who is now 5, is the light of my life.
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